….I guess one’s ability to lead a compartmentalized life is one of the finest ways of maintaining balance in your life as a whole. Beware! Compartmentalizing your life doesn’t mean becoming cold, robotic or any of such sorts. It’s basically realizing the nature of everything associated with you and your life. This is one of the toughest things to do as a human. It’s more of a psychological and a mental exercise.
Keeping yourself in hypocrisy is the easiest way “out” of the problem. Ever wondered why? Because, in this case ignorance does turn out to be bliss. Not thinking about the problem and pacifying yourself by saying “ jo hoga dekha jayega” (Language: Hindi , Meaning: Whatever happens I will worry about it later) can help you sometimes. But, the problem is what if it doesn’t turn out to be bliss? What if with time the situation becomes worse? The truth is sometimes we are so lazy/frustrated we don’t even care about ourselves. Because of this the people who care enough for you are the ones who suffer. How can one survive on the fact that the very few people who actually love you unconditionally are the ones you are hurting? That these people live their lives partially as your life isn’t heading anywhere? The point is, having compassion and love is very essential before even thinking about going for a compartmentalized life. I had to abruptly bring these questions before even explaining the meaning of compartmentalization, because I am sure that many can misunderstand this as becoming cold or numb.
So, what is compartmentalization? To define it would be difficult. But as I said its, put simply, understanding the nature of everything associated with you and your life. Now, I want you to visualize the problem graphically to understand the following part. Try to put everything and every person associated in your life into intellectual, physical, materialistic, social, professional or personal circle. Now definitely there will some part of every circle overlapping with other and some part independently existing. In my previous blog I had mentioned an example of the simplest problem which occurs in everyone’s life but had not addressed it, the problem of “a new relationship which is demanding time and attention but leading to compromise in the existing ones”. The very first thing in terms of compartmentalization is to understand that this problem is “natural” meaning that it had to occur and will continue to. Secondly, you have to understand which relations you are talking about. The circle in which the new relation falls and the existing facets of your life which are being affected. This might be a little vague so let me take the previous example more clearly. Let’s say one has got committed recently and is realizing that he/she is not able to cope up with relation unless he/she dedicates more time by compromising on his/her existing tasks. Here you have to understand that the new relation falls under the “personal” category. This might sound very obvious but trust me it’s like proving in mathematics. You think the arguments are obvious but it’s just very difficult to think about when you are given the actual problem.
So, after having understood its personal you have to know what circle/circles it’s affecting. This is the place where everyone’s problem becomes different. It will be very interesting for you to know that if you take the above example in general you will be able to think of ample examples of how a new personal relation can affect all the other circles including the personal circle. Now, after realizing the “nature” of the problem as whole which is nothing but the previous two “steps” you can actually start to solve this issue. The crux of the solution is to try and let only the personal circle be affected/adjusted because of this new “personal” relation. The overlapped region has contribution from both (or more) circles which is the real problem. Here instead of letting these overlapped circles get affected “create” (actually realize) a new circle which is the Time circle.
This circle is like the boundary of your life encompassing all the circles discussed previously. Now, with this bigger picture try and realize how much time you devote to every circle. There will be plenty of voids that you will realize plus there will be plenty of those regions in the “personal” circle which aren’t a priority at all. Now with all these “realizations” (I “realized” I’m using “realize” a lot :P) you have to prioritize and decide whether the problem you face is worth so much time and energy on the expense of your previous circles. If not then perhaps you are not ready for the inclusion of this new facet or it is not worth it. If yes, then you will definitely find your answer by rigorously searching within your own time circle. But what about those who are forced to include some new relations against their choice?...
Keeping yourself in hypocrisy is the easiest way “out” of the problem. Ever wondered why? Because, in this case ignorance does turn out to be bliss. Not thinking about the problem and pacifying yourself by saying “ jo hoga dekha jayega” (Language: Hindi , Meaning: Whatever happens I will worry about it later) can help you sometimes. But, the problem is what if it doesn’t turn out to be bliss? What if with time the situation becomes worse? The truth is sometimes we are so lazy/frustrated we don’t even care about ourselves. Because of this the people who care enough for you are the ones who suffer. How can one survive on the fact that the very few people who actually love you unconditionally are the ones you are hurting? That these people live their lives partially as your life isn’t heading anywhere? The point is, having compassion and love is very essential before even thinking about going for a compartmentalized life. I had to abruptly bring these questions before even explaining the meaning of compartmentalization, because I am sure that many can misunderstand this as becoming cold or numb.
So, what is compartmentalization? To define it would be difficult. But as I said its, put simply, understanding the nature of everything associated with you and your life. Now, I want you to visualize the problem graphically to understand the following part. Try to put everything and every person associated in your life into intellectual, physical, materialistic, social, professional or personal circle. Now definitely there will some part of every circle overlapping with other and some part independently existing. In my previous blog I had mentioned an example of the simplest problem which occurs in everyone’s life but had not addressed it, the problem of “a new relationship which is demanding time and attention but leading to compromise in the existing ones”. The very first thing in terms of compartmentalization is to understand that this problem is “natural” meaning that it had to occur and will continue to. Secondly, you have to understand which relations you are talking about. The circle in which the new relation falls and the existing facets of your life which are being affected. This might be a little vague so let me take the previous example more clearly. Let’s say one has got committed recently and is realizing that he/she is not able to cope up with relation unless he/she dedicates more time by compromising on his/her existing tasks. Here you have to understand that the new relation falls under the “personal” category. This might sound very obvious but trust me it’s like proving in mathematics. You think the arguments are obvious but it’s just very difficult to think about when you are given the actual problem.
So, after having understood its personal you have to know what circle/circles it’s affecting. This is the place where everyone’s problem becomes different. It will be very interesting for you to know that if you take the above example in general you will be able to think of ample examples of how a new personal relation can affect all the other circles including the personal circle. Now, after realizing the “nature” of the problem as whole which is nothing but the previous two “steps” you can actually start to solve this issue. The crux of the solution is to try and let only the personal circle be affected/adjusted because of this new “personal” relation. The overlapped region has contribution from both (or more) circles which is the real problem. Here instead of letting these overlapped circles get affected “create” (actually realize) a new circle which is the Time circle.
This circle is like the boundary of your life encompassing all the circles discussed previously. Now, with this bigger picture try and realize how much time you devote to every circle. There will be plenty of voids that you will realize plus there will be plenty of those regions in the “personal” circle which aren’t a priority at all. Now with all these “realizations” (I “realized” I’m using “realize” a lot :P) you have to prioritize and decide whether the problem you face is worth so much time and energy on the expense of your previous circles. If not then perhaps you are not ready for the inclusion of this new facet or it is not worth it. If yes, then you will definitely find your answer by rigorously searching within your own time circle. But what about those who are forced to include some new relations against their choice?...
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